Daddy Problems!

This time last year I discovered something that changed my life forever. I saw text messages between my  father and his TWO mistresses on the Ipad. (when you connect your phone to the Ipad, txts show up.. the Ipad literally acts as a big Iphone for those who don't know) My Parents were married for 27 years - 25 very happy years (the last 3 years..not so happy!) I was the only one home. My parents both at work, and my brother visiting his girlfriend at school.

I saw my father messaging these strange women expressing his love to them, begging them to send pictures of their boobs, making arrangements for when and where they would next meet, reminicing on past experiences they shared together.

My body was shaking from head to toe - a feeling I will never forget. I froze as I stared at the Ipad watching messages appear right in front of my eyes.    

I called the mistresses - of course they didn't answer, I wrote them threatening text messages - of course they were too big of cowards to reply.   I phoned my dad - called him every name under the sun. He rushed home from work &  DENIED EVERYTHING. He told me "anyone could have sent those messages" "this Ipad is referbished... It must be messages from the previous owners phone!" I sobbed like a baby thinking how the hell could he do this to us.     Anyways, after speaking it out with my dad for a few days, he showed me messages he sent to his mistresses assuring me he had ended it with them. He never actually admitted to having an affair but told me "it was over" lol wtf right?!?

I believed him like a stupid weak little girl. I was in such denial thinking my once trophy dad couldn't be capable of ruining what use to be our picture perfect family. For months I kept this secret to myself. It made me sick. How do you tell your mom her husband of 27 years is cheating on her?! I couldn't tell my brother because I was scared of his temper and feared what he might do.


Things got better for a little while until I saw my dad was back to his old habits, taking his phone into the bathroom, shower, excusing himself from the dinner table, texting under the table etc...signs that were so clear something was going on but signs we all wanted to ignore I guess....


I continued to fight with my dad telling him he needs to tell my mom because I can't bare to break this news to her.. he of course still denied having an affiar. We got into a huge fight over it - I have never yelled like that in my whole life and next thing he got SO mad he went into cardiac arrest right infront of my eyes - after cussing him off and telling him I want nothing to do with him... I almost watched him die!!!!! (I know.. sounds like the biggest load of sh!t but trust me.. it happened lol) My mom saved his life. I thought after his heart attack he was aware he was "given a second chance" and going to turn his life around but I was soo wrong.....    I woke up one saturday morning at 7am from a text message to my phone. The txt message was from one of his mistresses... This was 3 months after I had messaged her and called her after seeing those txts on the Ipad. well.. thats a conversation for another day....

Not sure if anyone has taken the time to read this but if you have please leave a comment! Let me know if something similar has happened to you or someone else you know. Even though this happened almost a year ago, the story goes on and gets that much more dramatic, intense and shocking...   

Thanks for listening and reading.


xox
D.

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Comments

  1. iambloggintoyou

    I know it seems hard, trust me I’ve seen someone extremely close to me get cheated on. And you have the gut telling you to tell that person but don’t want to watch them in such heart break. Well I told the person and she got mad at me until she saw for herself. It wasn’t my mother so in your shoes maybe I came halfway, but in the end. Tell them. Seriously. I would want someone to tell me then me finding it myself. Sounds like home is stressful right now. But it will get better, I promise.

    October 23, 2013
    1. daddyproblems

      I have definitely learned that honesty is the best policy! The guilt of not telling my mom was killing me and even to this day I wonder what it would have been like if I would have just come out with it. This was a few months ago, things are slowly starting to come together which is why it is that much easier to talk about it. We were forced to drastically downsize houses but that.s okay! It has given us a chance to start over! I hope your friend forgave you once she saw for herself what was going on…. It can never be easy hearing that sort of news from anyone – family or not! Thanks for sharing your positive thoughts – very comforting!

      October 23, 2013
      1. iambloggintoyou

        She did and it was more of my sister. Haha but I’M glad things are turning around for you. But don’t think what if I had done this. You didn’t do anything wrong. You were protecting someone from hurt. Don’t blame yourself. Feel free to private message me or comment on any blogs if you need someone to read and reply.

        October 23, 2013
        1. daddyproblems

          Amazing! Thanks!

          October 23, 2013
  2. snowconeee

    sounds like my uncle. he lost everything because of prostitutes and cheating on his wife, whom was married to him for 32 years.

    October 23, 2013
    1. daddyproblems

      Wow 32 years :O! Has your aunt met someone new? I just don’t get how sleeping with prostitutes almost becomes an “addiction” at least that’s sort of what it seems like.. I have no idea how many my dad slept with but I am positive this lady wasn’t the only one.

      October 23, 2013
      1. snowconeee

        She found someone new. Anything can become an addiction really.

        October 24, 2013